On this page we cover everything you need to know about the body language of love (genuine love –as being different to basic attraction and dating). If this isn’t quite what you’re looking for, you may like to read one of these alternative articles. . .
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The Body Language of Love
. . . He loves me. . .He loves me not. . . He love me. . . He loves me not. . . meh, sod picking flowers, let’s just ask the body language of love!
How can you be sure whether your boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife genuinely loves you? Those three little words don’t mean as much as they once did, but thankfully, there’s a much more powerful and more truthful way of being told you’re loved. The following signals of the body language of love will reveal the truth to you.
Universal Body Language of Love | How To Do Your Own Free Love Reading
Both men and women will show the following body language signs to those they love. So, put those Tarot cards down. If you want a truly honest free love reading, just look for these body language gestures. . .
Dilated pupils: Our pupils dilate when we look at something we love and this is one of the strongest signals of adoration. note that men and women who wear contact lenses can appear to have dilated eyes when they actually do not.
Feet pointing towards you: Believe it or not, our feet are a vital clue in the body language of love. We point our feet at things we love, like or desire. If your subject is constantly pointing their feet towards you, they are very into you.
Belly button pointing towards you: The same holds true for our belly buttons, they point towards things we like.
Play fighting: We only play fight with people we are close to. When neither of you are up to much and you’re both calm, playfully jab your partner (lightly, of course) and see how they react. If they don’t mind or better yet laugh then they feel close to you. If they get angry there may be an issue.
Women’s Body Language of Love
Men, here’s what you should know about a girl’s body language
The Good
Fondling round objects: If a girl is running her hand over a cylindrical object while she looks at you she’s quite likely thinking sexually about you. This isn’t neccessarily a sign of love but it is a very powerful attraction signal, especially in dating.
Touching delicate areas: If a girl is touching her neck, throat, thigh or other sensitive area, she is likely aroused, particularly if she is stroking that area. Heck, you don’t need to get a degree in psychology to know that a girl running her fingers up and down her leg is feeling turned on, right?
Showing her armpits: Showing the armpit is one of the biggest signs of a woman being aroused.
Slowly opening then closing her legs: If a woman opens then closes her legs (for instance, they’re sitting with one leg over the other and, while facing you, change their legs around so that they are momentarily open) then you just hit the jackpot.
The Bad
Nose Wrinkle: If a girl wrinkles her nose at you or curls her top lip up towards her nose she is frankly disgusted (these gestures will only last for up to a second)
Tapping on anything: Tapping is a sign of boredom. If you’re sat at a table talking to a girl, for instance, and she starts tapping the table with her finger, she’s bored.
Legs firmly crossed: If those legs are tightly crossed and facing away from you, then they’re staying that way.
Men’s Body Language of Love
Ladies, here’s what you need to know about a man’s body language
The Good
Highlighting the bits: If a guy stands with his hands pointing towards his crown jewels, he’s hoping to get lucky.
Showing muscles: If a guy has muscles, he will likely try and show them off to you, either subtly by flexing his bicep, for instance, or blatantly by saying “Hey, look at this massive bicep. I know, you’re wondering how a man has such a big bicep. . . .”
Leaning Towards you: leaning forwards is always a sign of interest (unless he’s reaching over to scratch his ankle or something) and is used particularly by men in love. If it’s in public, his leaning will be particularly pronounced as he will subconsciously try to close you off from other people in the room.
The Bad
The “Yeah Right” If a guy is truly opposed to the idea of you and him together, he’ll think “yeah right” to himself and this thought will show on his face. Look for a sarcastic smile, where only the edge of one side of his mouth raises into a crease, the rest of the mouth not moving. This is a fake smile which expresses contempt.
The Arm Barrier: Men feel very awkward when approached by a girl they’re not interested in. To protect themselves from this situation, they will subconsciously cover their bodies, perhaps folding their arms over their chest, holding a glass in front of them or turning their front away from you in a move called “ventral denial.”
When there really is an issue
If you are married or in a relationship and you see the following signs, you might want to ask what has gone wrong. Repeated use of the following gestures could mean your partner is unhappy. Could be that you’re heading to a divorce lawyer, but then again, it could just be that your partner has had a terrible day at work. Either way, be mindful of these body language gestures
Nose wrinkle and upper lip curl: As discussed above, these are signs of discussed.
Contempt smile: Again discussed above, if you see this a lot on your partners face they could very well be fed up with you. When I attended couples counselling in Los Angeles (to learn about body language, not because of an issue, I should say) this was one of the most important body language signs mentioned, so it is particularly important.
Refusing to look at you: An obvious one, but if your partner seems reluctant to look at you, they may well be wishing you weren’t around.
So, there we have it, some of the most important signs, both good and bad, in the body language of love. Be sure to look out for these signs, all of which are proven in the psychology of love. Don’t go calling a divorce attorney just because you see one negative sign though. Remember, emotions go up and down; just because they show negative body language one moment doesn’t mean it won’t change the next, so don’t be too caught up on odd gestures here and there or you’ll just suffer a bad case of depression and paranoia. Only be concerned if they show mostly negative body language and for a long time .