Casual Things Guys Should Say To Get To Know A Girl

Written on Tuesday, July 7th, 2015 by @Paul Harrison casual things to say to a girl


  questions-to-ask-a-girl-to-get-to-know-herSo you want to know what good questions to ask a girl to get to know her? And I’m guessing you have probably searched online for a lot of different advice about getting women, right?  And all that advice is now sitting in your head, doing little more than confusing you, right? Probably confuses you so much that when you actually talk to women you sit there like a retarded donkey wondering whether to be “alpha male” or “cocky comedy” and end up being an ass. Right? And you think I’m going to give you more information to confuse you even more about how to get girls?


Why the hell would I tell you something you already know?!

No. I’m not going to tell you what to say. Instead, I’m going to prove to you that you already know what you should say, and then I’m going to make you say it.

The Truth 

what-say-to-girlThe truth about most Pick Up Artist sites is that, rather than being full of genuinely helpful advice, they are designed either to  sell you some ebook on being an “Alpha Male” or to allow certain guys to dick-wag before the entire world (the kind of guys who call themselves a pick-upartist–I mean really, what kind of attention seeking chump refers to themselves as a pick up “Artist”? )  They are full of blatantly rubbish claims ( “Learn body language that will have her naked in 0.38 seconds”). And for some bizarre reason, guys actually continue to go to these sites and try out the advice they give even though it never works. Well, this is where the buck stops. This is where you realise the truth.

I am going to tell you just one single thing: You already know everything you need to know. You already know what questions to ask a girl to get to know her. 


Questions to Ask  1

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These are the absolute best pointers on what you should ask a girl.

Questions to ask a girl to get to know her principle 1:

Ask something that is related to where you are / what you are doing.  

For instance, if you’re in a bar, mention something interesting about either the decor of the bar, or about someone else in the bar. Ask a question that is relevant to what you’re doing, otherwise it will be evident that you are only asking a question in order to start talking to the girl, and that will make you look desperate and unattractive.



girls-3Questions to ask a girl to get to know her principle 2:

Just say what is on your mind

People are sensitive to other people and can usually tell whether someone is being genuine or not. Being genuine is a very attractive quality because it exudes confidence. If you walk up to a woman and just say what is on your mind you will look both genuine and confident. Of course, you don’t want to walk up and say “Huh huh, you ‘as big boobs duh!” but if you happen to give a genuine compliment or you casually say something like “Hey, you look kinda cool so I thought I’d say Hi. How you doing?” she’ll more than likely relax and stat chatting.



depression-medication-doesnt-workQuestions to ask a girl to get to know her principle 3:

If it’s a girl you know, just tell her why you think she’s different / caught your eye

Example. The girl you like is unique and never goes with the crowd. Just say to her, “You know I find it cool that you’re always yourself and you never just follow the crowd like everyone else. How come you are so confident?”  Because this is a true statement (and she knows it is true) she will a) be complimented because she knows you mean it and b) find it easy to talk with you because you are talking about something she knows about.

Mention Something someone else said to you and get her opinion on it

If you ask her a question based on something someone else said to you it immediately takes some of the pressure off because you’re not directly talking about each other. For instance, “My mate said most women in [where you are] don’t like the guys here. Do you think that’s true?’  This is just an example off the top of my head, but you can see how referring to someone else takes pressure off of the two of you. This is also a more natural way of speaking as we normally refer to external subjects, for example: Did you see X Factor? I can’t believe Rooney missed AGAIN etc.

Okay, so these are just the basics. Essentially it all comes down to a few points. 1) Be natural. 2) Be genuine. 3) Just say whatever is on your mind cause you’ll look more chilled out. 4) Refer to external subjects as that’s how we normally talk.





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Paul M Harrison is a journalist and author specialising in lifestyle and relationships. The author of more than five books, you can find Paul's works via his Amazon Author Page Obviously, add him on Twitter andFacebook too.

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