There are times for every one of us when we have to know how to make a difficult decision in life. Be it a decision regarding work, relationships, family life or any other area of life, the nature of life is that we have to make difficult decisions from time to time.
In many ways its strange that we don’t inherently know how to make a difficult decision. After all, we have likely made hundreds of difficult decisions over the years in one form or another. Why have we not developed a system to make the process easier?
Why don’t we inherently know how to make a difficult decision?
The reason we haven’t developed a definite means of making a decision is because the decision making process occurs beneath the surface.
We’ve all experienced those moments when we went for a walk to clear our mind and then—hey presto—the solution to our problem pops into our mind. When the solutions–or the answers—occur, we are usually thinking about something else entirely.
The fact that decisions are made while we are thinking of something else (or not thinking at all) isn’t coincidence. The fact of the matter is that we need to stop thinking about a decision in order to make it. It is almost as though we have to mentally step out of our own way in order to allow ourselves to make the decision.
Essentially, our conscious mind needs to remove itself from the decision so our subconscious mind can decide for us.
So, how to make a difficult decision. The answer lies in distracting your conscious mind.
There are a number of different ways to do this. Essentially, you can do anything that will distract you. You could go for a walk or a run. You could play an action packed video game (which will preoccupy your mind long enough for the decision to be made) or you could meditate.
My personal favourite solution is to meditate. Whenever I need to make a difficult decision, I close my eyes and focus absolutely on my breath. This distances my conscious mind from the decision, allowing enough mental space for the decision to be made.
Here are some great books I recommend on how to make a difficult decision
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