How to Get a Relationship: Magic Words
If you’re trying to find out how to get a relationship, the answer is in the power of words.Any relationship. Whether we’re top sales executives seeking lucrative clients, single men or women looking to create a relationship on an online dating site, or out in a new city and wanting to make friends, there’s a power to words that can lead us to great relationships. Let’s realise that power now.
How to Get a Relationship by Using Words
Your words or mine? The first rule of communication is to communicate in whatever way the receiver finds easiest to understand. When it comes to interpersonal communication, the easiest way is the way the listener already speaks. So you’re listener is a sports fan, use sports analogies. Your listener never curses. You shouldn’t either. Your listener speaks in technical, scientific terms; do likewise, if you have the knowhow. Speak as your listener speaks and they will naturally feel closer to you.
We: Some words hold great power:Sale, Best, Executive, Free, Learn, Discover. Perhaps none, however, hold more power than the word We. The reason is simple. Most of the time, when dealing with people we do not know particularly well, we think in terms of Me and You. Hearing the word “We,” however, forces the listener to imagine that the two of you are one group. There’s not even a choice in this. We hijacks the listener’s mind and makes them think of the two of you as being together in some way. When it comes to forming a relationship, that’s pretty powerful magic. This is especially true when you ask a question. So let me ask you, Do you think we will visit this site tomorrow and sign up using the email subscription button on the top right? We will, you say? Great. :)
Words and Phrases No One Else Uses: You want someone to remember you and who you are. They know your name now, but heck, there’s about a hundred million other Paul’s out there so really, what good is that? No, we need to give them something to remember us by, something unique. Oh, here’s a great idea: how about we use a word or phrase that no one else uses? Instead of saying “later” or “bye” let’s bid them adieu. Instead of saying “hello” let’s say “howdy.” Why? Because every time they hear that words from then onwards they’ll be thinking about us. Crikey, what a cheeky trick.
We Go Way Back. . . Honest! There are two ways to making someone feel like they’ve known you for a first time. I’m cheating with the fist one because it doesn’t involve words but heck, here goes. The first way to make someone think they’ve known for a long time is to get them to talk to you in different locations in a short amount of time. Meet them in the office, go for a coffee, share a taxi to the airport, bid them farewell at the terminal. Why? Because having a lot of visual memories associated to a person is like having a long history; they’ve done more with you, so they’ve more to remember.
The second way to make them feel like they’ve known you for a long time requires that you’ve met them at least once before. If so, find one moment in the previous meeting that was in some way special and simply refer to it over and over again.
Kor. Devilishly good communication trickery on this page. What will we uncover on the next page?
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