How do you get people like you? — Be Like Them

How do you get people to  like you? Sadly, the answer is to be like them.

We like to celebrate individuality in the world, but then again, we also discriminate against those who are dissimilar to us. So is it best to be like other people or to be 100% genuine to yourself all the time?

Thankfully, effective communication shows us that we don’t have to decide between these two polarities. We can communicate in a way which is similar to other people while still keeping the integrity of our individuality. You can make people like you more while still being you. How?

In order to be unique and yet still fit in, simply express what you want to express (say what you want to say and do what you want to do but in a manner which is familiar and understandable to other people. Here are some great ways you begin to do this today.

 How do you make people like you while Still Being You?

How do you get people to like you, Answer#1:

Use Their Logic to Explain Your Argument:

Let’s say you completely disagree with your boyfriend that you should go to Bacelona for your holiday this year because of the city’s beautiful architecture. You think you should go to Cypris instead because it’s hotter. What do you do? You rationalise going toIbiza in a way which is understandable and agreeable to your boyfriend. Find out anything you can about architecture inCyprus and tell him about it. This will make him see that your choice is right for his reason.

How do you get people to like you, Answer #2

Use Their Words to Express Your Views : People grow very accustomed to certain manners of speech. Introduce a red neck to an aristocrat for a humour experiment as you’ll see what I mean. So how does Mr. Aristocrat and Mr. Red Neck get around this? They say whatever they want to say, but in a way which is familiar and agreeable to the other person. Use language in the manner your audience would use it and they will feel akin to you, building rapport that will take your communication a long way.

How do you get people to like you, Answer#3

Use Their Body Language to Show Your Expressions: People use body language in different ways. Old Mr. Red Neck has a totally different (much less restrained) use of body language than Mr. Aristocrat. This can cause terrible communication problems because what Mr. Red Neck sees as minor mocking, Mr. Aristocrat might consider a grave threat. So what do they do? They use the other person’s body language in order to convey the correct emotions. Mr Aristocrat may need to be a little more pushy and bare knuckled to communicate with Mr. Red Neck, while Mr. Red Neck may need to hold himself back a little to communicate effectively with Mr. Aristocrat.

Of course, there are some relationships that simply aren’t going to end well. Or two friends Mr Aristocrat and Mr Red Neck aren’t likely to see eye to eye on much. Nevertheless, the best chance each of them has at effective communication in this instance is to adopt the other persons manner of self expression. And so it is with all of us. To communicate effectively, say exactly what you want to say and show exactly what you want to show, but do it in the language of the other person. You’ll find this to be a tremendously powerful manner of communicating.