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Five New Secret Body Language Signs of Attraction for Singles Dating

Posted on March 18, 2013 by Paul Harrison

Knowing the secret body language signs of attraction allows you to know, without mistake, precisely who is and who is not attracted to you. Understanding these body language gestures is essentially for singles dating. . .

Five New Secret Body Language Signs of Attraction for Singles Dating

Though we may have all the technology and gadgets in the world, as people, when it comes down to it, we’re still just wild animals. Through evolution we have learnt to read people body monitoring their body language.

Just as animals have specific ways of showing attraction to one another, so do humans. By understanding this hidden language of the body you empower yourself to recognise a person’s feelings. Stop feeling uncertain and be confidence about sexual interest by learning to read these five secret body language signs of attraction.

Secret Body Language Signs of Attraction #1: Forehead Bow

When you see your date doing a forehead bow you can be certain that they’re after more than friendship. In this body language gesture the head tips forward and your date looks up at you. This simple head movement shows certain interest and strong attraction. An opposite of this gesture is tilting the head backwards and looking downwards, which shows dominance. Be careful if you see this backwards-tilt! It means your date is looking down on you (literally and figuratively).

Secret Body Language Signs of Attraction #2: Mirroring

Many animals use “isopraxism” to help establish a positive relationship and to show interest. Isopraxism essentially means mirroring. Both animals and humans mirror one another’s movements as a sign of interest and to show agreeability. You may notice your date copying some of your movements. For instance, you lean forwards and your date does the same. This is a strong sign of interest and when shown in dating is a very encouraging body language sign of attraction.

Read the complete guide to mirroring body language HERE.

Secret Body Language Signs of Attraction #3: Shoulder Raise

This is one of the easiest signs of attraction in body language to recognise. It’s a simple movement in which the shoulders are raised. This natural muscular response looks cute, almost childlike. It is an emotional response we show when we like someone. If you see your date using this body language gesture, you can be confident they truly admire you.

Read the complete guide to arm body language HERE.

Secret Body Language Signs of Attraction #4: Toes turning in

The feet, you may be surprised to hear, give off some of the most telling body language gestures. One of the most important gestures a person can show with their feet, at least when dating, is called “tribial torsion.” In this gesture the toes turn inwards. This is a “shrinking” kind of body language that reveals two things. Firstly, it shows attraction, but it also shows that your date is feeling a little intimidated by you.

Read the complete guide to legs body language HERE.

Secret Body Language Signs of Attraction #5: Showing the palms

Showing the palms is an important body language gesture that is seen in many different areas. It always has a similar message: friendliness and possible submissiveness. If you think about a beggar asking for money, their hands will be facing palm-up. Contrastingly, in business, a boss will likely use the palm-down position to show authority. Be careful of a date who gives the palms-down gesture; they’re likely to try and control you. Showing palms up is a more positive gesture and shows openness and friendliness, though if it is used often it is also a sign of submissiveness.

Read the complete guide to hand body language HERE.

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Five New Secret Body Language Signs of Attraction for Singles Dating

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Sleep More: The bizarre way how to make a girl notice you

Posted on September 19, 2012 by Paul Harrison

Millions of men believe the way how to make a girl notice you is to be super fit, to be Mr Confident “alpha male” or to get a load of money so they can offer the world. There’s just one teensie-weensie problem with this ideas: they’re hard work.

If only there were some way how to make a girl notice you that was so easy you could do it with your eyes closed. Well, now there is.

How to make a girl notice you by. . . SLEEPING?!

Check this out for an amazing way how to make a girl notice you. A Swedish study has proven that getting a little sleep before you hit the town makes you significantly more attractive. The researchers who conducted the study took two photos of twenty five different people. One photo was taken after sleeping seven to eight hours a night; the other taken after only four hours sleep. They then asked 40 people to say which photo they found more attractive.

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An overwhelming majority reported that the men how had had less sleep were less attractive. John Axelsson, PhD—associate professor at Stockholm University and lead project researcher—states that less sleep makes a man less attractive and makes others less likely to socialise with him.

This is just one example of the myriad ways in which nonverbal communication plays a vital role in courtship and attraction. It’s funny how many people obsess over the hard work of eating right and going to the gym every day when really, your basic appearance—your body language, energy levels etc.—are what really govern your attractiveness.

For a quick fix simply use a drop of eye cream. It’ll get rid of the bags under your eyes and leave you looking a million times better.

The fact that this little detail about the eyes makes such a big difference in attraction really shows the importance of nonverbal communication (in other words, what your body communicates through such points as body language, voice tone and other details).

Here’s an idea. If you’re thinking about hitting the gym for an hour, Don’t. Instead, read our 100% free body language course, which is written from a factual and scientific standpoint (in other words, it’s the real deal). You’ll discover a shed-load of vital information you might not know yet.

And once you’ve read our guide, join us on Facebook where we’ll continue to reveal the most valuable and powerful insight into relationships, body language

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Wow, what a freaking weirdd but also awesome way how to make a girl notice you! Wonder what comes next. . .

Sleep More: The bizarre way how to make a girl notice you

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Women: Stronger, Fairer and Happier than Men

Posted on September 8, 2012 by Paul Harrison

Author of Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth, Robert Biswas Diener says women are happier than men.

Diener states that a certain gene makes women happier than men, allowing women to have more pronounced positive emotional moments. So, it’s confirmed, women are now stronger, fairer and happier than men.

Here are some of the many positive things being said about Diener’s work.

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“This is the most authoritative and informative book about happiness ever written. That’s not surprising, given that its authors are the world’s leading happiness researcher and his psychologist-son, whose vocation is coaching people toward happier lives.”

–David G. Myers,HopeCollege, author, The Pursuit of Happiness: Who is Happy, and Why

“A great gift from the leading professional scientist of happiness in the world and his son, the ‘Indiana Jones’ of positive psychology.”

–Martin E. P. Seligman,UniversityofPennsylvaniaand author, Authentic Happiness

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How to Get a Relationship: Magic Words

Posted on July 19, 2012 by Paul Harrison

If you’re trying to find out how to get a relationship, the answer is in the power of words.Any relationship. Whether we’re top sales executives seeking lucrative clients, single men or women looking to create a relationship on an online dating site, or out in a new city and wanting to make friends, there’s a power to words that can lead us to great relationships. Let’s realise that power now.

How to Get a Relationship by Using Words

Your words or mine? The first rule of communication is to communicate in whatever way the receiver finds easiest to understand. When it comes to interpersonal communication, the easiest way is the way the listener already speaks. So you’re listener is a sports fan, use sports analogies. Your listener never curses. You shouldn’t either. Your listener speaks in technical, scientific terms; do likewise, if you have the knowhow. Speak as your listener speaks and they will naturally feel closer to you.

We: Some words hold great power:Sale, Best, Executive, Free, Learn, Discover. Perhaps none, however, hold more power than the word We. The reason is simple. Most of the time, when dealing with people we do not know particularly well, we think in terms of Me and You. Hearing the word “We,” however, forces the listener to imagine that the two of you are one group. There’s not even a choice in this. We hijacks the listener’s mind and makes them think of the two of you as being together in some way. When it comes to forming a relationship, that’s pretty powerful magic. This is especially true when you ask a question. So let me ask you, Do you think we will visit this site tomorrow and sign up using the email subscription button on the top right? We will, you say? Great. :)

Words and Phrases No One Else Uses: You want someone to remember you and who you are. They know your name now, but heck, there’s about a hundred million other Paul’s out there so really, what good is that? No, we need to give them something to remember us by, something unique. Oh, here’s a great idea: how about we use a word or phrase that no one else uses? Instead of saying “later” or “bye” let’s bid them adieu. Instead of saying “hello” let’s say “howdy.” Why? Because every time they hear that words from then onwards they’ll be thinking about us. Crikey, what a cheeky trick.

We Go Way Back. . . Honest! There are two ways to making someone feel like they’ve known you for a first time. I’m cheating with the fist one because it doesn’t involve words but heck, here goes. The first way to make someone think they’ve known for a long time is to get them to talk to you in different locations in a short amount of time. Meet them in the office, go for a coffee, share a taxi to the airport, bid them farewell at the terminal. Why? Because having a lot of visual memories associated to a person is like having a long history; they’ve done more with you, so they’ve more to remember.

The second way to make them feel like they’ve known you for a long time requires that you’ve met them at least once before. If so, find one moment in the previous meeting that was in some way special and simply refer to it over and over again.

Kor. Devilishly good communication trickery on this page. What will we uncover on the next page?

How to Get a Relationship: Magic Words

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Listening Skills: The Clues that Unravel the Relationship

Posted on July 19, 2012 by Paul Harrison

When you need to know exactly what relationship two people share, with good listening skills, you’ll find the answer in the way they speak.

Have you ever sat quietly and observed two strangers talking and wondered how they knew each other, whether they were together, whether they were friends, and how close or how distant they were to one another? You’ve tried reading their body language, and you’ve looked for clues like a wedding ring or matching tattoos. But you still can’t be certain exactly what their relationship is.

It can be hard to determine exactly what relationship two people share. But with these listening skills you’ll be unravelling the mystery in no time.

Social Communication Clues that Reveal the Relationship

Strangers Use Cliches: Strangers, by necessity, use a lot of clichés as they are getting to know one another. They say things like, “Enjoying the weather?” “Do you come here often?” and the all important question “How you doing? . . . [with no follow up].” If two people are chatting through clichés, it’s a safe bet they don’t know each other particularly well. If, for instance, a guy and a girl are chatting in this way, you’ve no need to worry about approaching either.

Facts Without Emotion or Opinion: Another way in which two strangers or loose acquaintances talk is through facts with no opinions. “So, Murray lost the tennis,” “Did you know this summer has been the coldest in fifty years?” These sorts of questions are feeler questions, where a person puts a subject out there and sees what catches nibbles. They’re trying to determine what the other person does and does not like, what subjects to bring up and which to avoid. When two people speak in this way, they may know each other a little, but generally are not very close.

Personal Opinions about Unimportant Subjects: Casual friends are likely to give their opinions on unimportant subjects. “That Rooney, what a prick,” “Bloody Cameron’s cocked it up again” and so on. Equally, they may bring up important subjects while witholding their opinion. Questions like”How are the kids?” are popular among this type of relationship. If it’s between a guy and a girl, there may be some romantic interest on either side, but if there is a romantic relationship it’s likely in its early days.

Moderate opinions on Moderately Important Matter: It should come as little surprise after the previous two points to find that people who know each other quite well (for instance, who went to school together but weren’t best friends, or who are friendly at the office but not too close outside of it etc.) will speak in moderation. They won’t mind giving extreme opinions on somewhat important subjects, and they won’t mind speaking about important or personal subjects but will keep their opinions polite and agreeable. This type of conversation is also used by people in a new romantic relationship (less than 6 months), where they are learning to share important matters but are not yet so comfortable as to speak with complete freedom.

All in: The height of intimacy is revealed when people show no concern for giving extreme opinions on important subjects, often directed or about one another. If a person in this relationship is angry, it wouldn’t be too big a deal for them to say something along the lines of, “You’re a right prick sometimes.” They’ve grown close enough to be able to express their objections and anger if they need to. This should be the case in strong romantic relationships and in families (except where there is a clear authority figure, such as between father and son). It’s healthy to share honest feelings whether good or bad; it helps to resolve issues early on before they become genuine problems. Other all in comments might include, “This damn country is overrun with [insert race / class / some other discrimination].” You wouldn’t feel comfortable saying this to a stranger, nor to a friend you’re not particulraly close to, because you’re not 100% certain whether they’ll be offended, and if they are offended, you’re not 100% certain how they’ll react. But you wouldn’t mind saying these things to close friends or family, nor to a girlfriend or boyfriend you’ve been with for a long time.

Wherever you are and whoever you’re trying to read, you can determine a great deal about their relationship by listening to the exact way in which they’re speaking to one another.

Look for these clues, social detective, and you’ll unravel the riddle of the relationship in no time.

Now, let’s turn these clues into communications weapons as we reveal how to create relationships through clever word deployment in Using Words to Get a Relationships

Listening Skills: The Clues that Unravel the Relationship

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How to Make Friends in a New City

Posted on July 17, 2012 by Paul Harrison

So, you’ve moved and want to know how to make friends in a new city. There are a great many ways to succeed here. Some answers to the question of how to make friends in a new city include joining clubs for your hobbies, to befriending everyone at your workplace, to simply going out to busy spots and saying “I’m new to the area. . . “ (most people won’t mind as the majority of us want more friends ourselves anyway), to using social networking sites (you probably already have a load of connections to people in your new area that you’re not even aware of, if you use Facebook). All these ideas are good ways to meet new people, but the best way I have found how to make friends in a new city is by using the power of nonverbal communication.

How to Make Friends in a New City With Nonverbal Communication

If you’ve read ARoleModel.com’s guide to body language and nonverbal communication, you’ll know that body language signals can be used to create relationships between people.

When we meet someone we’ve known for a long time, our body language is very different compared to how it is when meeting strangers. People are subconsciously aware of these differences. The effect of body language works beneath the surface. If we see a person using positive and friendly body language, we think then a friend. If we see negative and intimidating body language, we will likely think them an enemy. Knowing this, we can intentionally choose to show every new person we meet positive body language in order to create a positive and friendly relationship. This is the best way how to make friends in a new city.

I know what you’re thinking: “But I don’t want to be worried about my body language, the way I’m sitting or standing, when I meet new people, I just want to meet them naturally.” Well, with this little trick you can.

The very simple trick is this. Whenever you meet new people, imagine in your mind that you are meeting old friends. Just think about a friend you new really well who you haven’t seen for a long time. Believe it or not, your imagination is a very powerful tool. If you imagine meeting old friends, your body will naturally adopt the body language voice tone and even the way of thinking of meeting a friend as opposed to meeting a stranger. Just by using your imagination, you will send out tons of positive nonverbal communication messages which will change the way you present yourself and the way you are received.

There’s a lot of science behind why this works but meh, science sch-mience when you’ve got a great social life waiting for you. Now you know how to make friends in a new city, go out there and do it.

How to Make Friends in a New City

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Tips to Improve Communication Skills #1

Posted on July 16, 2012 by Paul Harrison

There’s one physical characteristic that eclipses speech, attractiveness, fitness and all other areas of nonverbal communication for importance. That characteristic is good posture.

No list of tips to improve communication skills would be complete without mentioning posture at least once.

We know the moment we see someone with good posture. They appear healthy, in balance, elegant, professional and simply correct. That’s why, whether you’re looking to make a big impression in international business, a little but no less importance impression on your dream date, or simply want the respect of those around you, good posture is an absolute necessity. One of the best tips for communication skills, then, is just to make sure that you maintain good posture at all time.
Good posture is often considered a simple case of standing tall and straight. In reality it is much more. The best way to learn to have good posture is to practice the Alexander Technique (I always recommend Towards Perfect Posture for this purpose).
~Still, you came here for excellent tips to improve communication skills, so here is one of the best: make it a habit every time you walk through a door to imagine that your entire body is dangling from a wire poised perfectly above your head. Imagine your body is dangling from this wire. You’re held in perfect alignment, your head is high, your shoulders are back, your spine long with each vertebrae taking its natural space one after the other. When you walk through a door, mentally picture your body in perfect posture.
The purpose of this small tips to improve communications is to make it a habit to be in perfect posture every time you enter a new scene. This way, whenever you meet new people, they will see you with perfect posture and this will greatly boost the strength your first impression, that most important element of communication.
So, when you walk through a door way, think perfect posture. Before long this will be a habit and your first impressions will be s omuch the better.

One page, one excellent tip for communication skills. I wonder what comes next. . .

Tips to Improve Communication Skills #1

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Communications Problems in Marriage Resolved through Nonviolent Communication

Posted on July 16, 2012 by Paul Harrison

Communication problems in a marriage are normal and commonplace.

That’s hardly surprising. Spending so much time with one person, whether they are loved ones or not, is bound to lead to some tension. There’s nothing abnormal about poor communication in marriage. There is no need to apportion blame or to feel guilty about poor marital communication because it is normal. There is, however, need to resolve the issue in a positive and healthy manner. And perhaps the healthiest manner is through nonviolent communication

I’ve recently been rereading the work of Marshal Rosenberg (an American psychologist with a PHD degree in Clinical Psychnology). Rosenberg is the founder of Nonviolent Communication, a communication process which works particularly well as a conflict resolution process. It’s a work I found particularly interesting and so would like to share some good ideas from it.
Most of us argue often, whether we choose to admit it or not, but why do we argue. You may have your own view on why people argue; there certainly are many different opinions. My personal belief is that we live in a society obsessed with judging, blaming and labelling. Our society says that every issue is the result of someone’s personal fault. In a marriage, if we’re arguing, we’re likely to say we’re arguing because “They (our husband / wife) don’t care and are selfish” or “They love their career more than us,” or “They’re insensitive and unloving.” These statements can seem true at the time of voicing them, when we are filled with emotion, when we feel hurt, when we feel angry, when we want to lash out. They can seem entirely true and very much validated. They are not, however, healthy, nor are they positive.
Rosenberg’s theories on Nonviolent Communication do away with this apportioning of blame. Rather, Nonviolent Communication suggests we settle for describing our feelings using four components.

1. observation
2. feeling
3. needs
4. request

For example, In a situation where Jenny is fed up of staying at home all day while Tom seems to work until late into the night and shows little affection, where many in Jenny’s place might complain, “You don’t love me, you only care about your work,” Jenny, using Nonviolent Communication, would say, “When I’m at home between nine in the morning and nine at night and unable to speak to you about my feelings, I feel lonely and distant from you, because I need your companionship to feel connected to you and to feel close to you.”
In this way, Jenny hasn’t blamed a anybody, not Tom and, just as importantly, she hasn’t blamed herself either. She has simply described what is going on inside herself, how she feels and what she needs. She has informed Tom of the situation from her point of view.
This may seem terribly simple, and in many ways it is, but it is also very important. Over time, we grow apart. Tom works all day and Jenny does the housework and looks after the kids. Their lives are very different. Naturally, they will grow apart and see things from different points of view. When we blame the other person, we refuse to see their point of view and instead hammer on about our own biased view. Essentially, by blaming, we only serve to drive ourselves further apart. The nonviolent communication resolution to poor communication in marriage, however, simply informs the other person of our point of view. Tom now knows how Jenny is feeling. Jenny has invited Tom tinto her point of view and has brought the two closer together. Life slowly pulls us apart, but the nonviolent communication approach draws us together again. It is like the air we breathe. Every day life is like an exhalation, drawing us out of our singular body, our singular, cooperative point of view. Nonviolent communication breathes us back together again; a peaceful, healthy and positive resolution to marital conflicts.

I hope you found this article helpful. If you would like to read more on Nonviolent Communication, I recommend reading Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life

Communications Problems in Marriage Resolved through Nonviolent Communication

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Examples of Friendly Body Language

Posted on July 9, 2012 by Paul Harrison

Possibly the most important part of body language to get right is simply appearing friendly. While the body language of attraction and the body language of business might have their benefits, surely nothing is more important than just being a nice, friendly person, is it? Didn’t think so. That’s why these examples of friendly body language are so important.

For some people, looking friendly is an absolute must. Good counselling in schools requires the counsellor to always look friendly to gain trust. Insurance salesmen need to look friendly as they’re already given a bad image before they’ve even met their customer. From everything from law enforcement to modelling to being a TV host, you need to look friendly to present the right image. And for the rest of us. . . well, we need to look friendly to have friends. That’s why you need to understanding the following examples of friendly body language.

It’s such a shame that some truly nice people are often thought of as unfriendly just because they have a few errors in their body language, while some downright horrible people are thought of as wonderful simply because they look good. It’s an issue that needs to be set right. So let’s do that right now.

By understanding how these examples of friendly body language communicate friendliness, we can learn to show a better, more open and approachable image of ourselves that will significantly boost our social lives.

Left: Ellen Degeneres always shows very friendly body language on the Ellen Show

Examples of Friendly Body language

Open body language, where you do not form any barriers (for instance by crossing your arms over your chest) is imperative to showing trustworthiness and friendliness.

Smiling should be used but not too often as it is also a sign of submissiveness.

Raising your eyebrows just a little will significantly help in looking friendly.

Showing the hands, and particularly the palms of the hands, creates an honest and approachable image which will make you appear more friendly.

Holding your chin in neutral position (parallel to the ground) will make you appear confident but not arrogant, which will make others more comfortable in approaching you.

Hiding any part of the body behind either an object or another part of the body (for instance, putting your feet under your chair, covering your mouth with a hand, putting your hands in your pockets etc.) can create various negative impressions. People will view you as more friendly and more approachable when you do not cover up any body parts (except with clothing, of course).

So, now we’ve covered the examples of friendly body language, let’s move on to another very important subject.

Why Truly Nice People Sometimes Appear Unfriendly

Those examples of friendly body language will be worth nought if they are ruined by negative body language.

No matter how nice they may be, some people are born with certain physical features which make them look less friendly. If you have any of these physical traits you may benefit by exaggerating some of the other elements of friendly body language to compensate.

People with small pupils are at a disadvantage because small pupils naturally look angry.
If you find it hard to show much expression in the face, you may wish to make more use of hand gestures when speaking to compensate.
If you have any dental issues that prevent you from smiling comfortably (for instance, wisdom teeth), make more use of the friendly body language gestures.
Any physical issues that create limited motion in an area of the body can inadvertently communicate unwanted characteristics and emotions. If you have such an issue, try to observe yourself or ask a friend or family member how it impacts the visual communication of your character and personality and try to use different positive body language gestures to balance this out.

By becoming aware of the negative areas of our image and adopting the examples of friendly body language, we can present an open, likeable and approachable side of ourselves that will give people a new, altogether more positive opinion of us. Be sure to make use of these friendly body language pointers today.

NEXT: How to Make Someone like You Through Body Language

Examples of Friendly Body Language

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Playing with Wedding Ring Body Language | Need A Good Divorce Lawyer. . . ? NO!

Posted on July 4, 2012 by Paul Harrison

Our guide to understanding what playing with a wedding ring means in body language will tell you everything you need to know.

The Meanings of Fiddling with Wedding Rings in Body Language

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Body Language of Love | Free Love Readings through Body Language!

Posted on July 4, 2012 by Paul Harrison

On this page we cover everything you need to know about the body language of love (genuine love –as being different to basic attraction and dating). If this isn’t quite what you’re looking for, you may like to read one of these alternative articles. . .

How to read female flirting signals – good for dating women

How to read male flirting signals – for dating men

Still not what you’re looking for? Consult the complete body language guide, your five minute degree in body language.

The Body Language of Love

. . . He loves me. . .He loves me not. . . He love me. . . He loves me not. . . meh, sod picking flowers, let’s just ask the body language of love!

How can you be sure whether your boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife genuinely loves you? Those three little words don’t mean as much as they once did, but thankfully, there’s a much more powerful and more truthful way of being told you’re loved. The following signals of the body language of love will reveal the truth to you.

Universal Body Language of Love | How To Do Your Own Free Love Reading

Both men and women will show the following body language signs to those they love. So, put those Tarot cards down. If you want a truly honest free love reading, just look for these body language gestures. . .

Dilated pupils: Our pupils dilate when we look at something we love and this is one of the strongest signals of adoration. note that men and women who wear contact lenses can appear to have dilated eyes when they actually do not.

Feet pointing towards you: Believe it or not, our feet are a vital clue in the body language of love. We point our feet at things we love, like or desire. If your subject is constantly pointing their feet towards you, they are very into you.

Belly button pointing towards you: The same holds true for our belly buttons, they point towards things we like.

Play fighting: We only play fight with people we are close to. When neither of you are up to much and you’re both calm, playfully jab your partner (lightly, of course) and see how they react. If they don’t mind or better yet laugh then they feel close to you. If they get angry there may be an issue.

Women’s Body Language of Love

Men, here’s what you should know about a girl’s body language

The Good

Fondling round objects: If a girl is running her hand over a cylindrical object while she looks at you she’s quite likely thinking sexually about you. This isn’t neccessarily a sign of love but it is a very powerful attraction signal, especially in dating.

Touching delicate areas: If a girl is touching her neck, throat, thigh or other sensitive area, she is likely aroused, particularly if she is stroking that area. Heck, you don’t need to get a degree in psychology to know that a girl running her fingers up and down her leg is feeling turned on, right?

Showing her armpits: Showing the armpit is one of the biggest signs of a woman being aroused.

Slowly opening then closing her legs: If a woman opens then closes her legs (for instance, they’re sitting with one leg over the other and, while facing you, change their legs around so that they are momentarily open) then you just hit the jackpot.

The Bad

Nose Wrinkle: If a girl wrinkles her nose at you or curls her top lip up towards her nose she is frankly disgusted (these gestures will only last for up to a second)

Tapping on anything: Tapping is a sign of boredom. If you’re sat at a table talking to a girl, for instance, and she starts tapping the table with her finger, she’s bored.

Legs firmly crossed: If those legs are tightly crossed and facing away from you, then they’re staying that way.

Men’s Body Language of Love

Ladies, here’s what you need to know about a man’s body language

The Good

Highlighting the bits: If a guy stands with his hands pointing towards his crown jewels, he’s hoping to get lucky.

Showing muscles: If a guy has muscles, he will likely try and show them off to you, either subtly by flexing his bicep, for instance, or blatantly by saying “Hey, look at this massive bicep. I know, you’re wondering how a man has such a big bicep. . . .”

Leaning Towards you: leaning forwards is always a sign of interest (unless he’s reaching over to scratch his ankle or something) and is used particularly by men in love. If it’s in public, his leaning will be particularly pronounced as he will subconsciously try to close you off from other people in the room.

The Bad

The “Yeah Right” If a guy is truly opposed to the idea of you and him together, he’ll think “yeah right” to himself and this thought will show on his face. Look for a sarcastic smile, where only the edge of one side of his mouth raises into a crease, the rest of the mouth not moving. This is a fake smile which expresses contempt.

The Arm Barrier: Men feel very awkward when approached by a girl they’re not interested in. To protect themselves from this situation, they will subconsciously cover their bodies, perhaps folding their arms over their chest, holding a glass in front of them or turning their front away from you in a move called “ventral denial.”

When there really is an issue

If you are married or in a relationship and you see the following signs, you might want to ask what has gone wrong. Repeated use of the following gestures could mean your partner is unhappy. Could be that you’re heading to a divorce lawyer, but then again, it could just be that your partner has had a terrible day at work. Either way, be mindful of these body language gestures

Nose wrinkle and upper lip curl: As discussed above, these are signs of discussed.

Contempt smile: Again discussed above, if you see this a lot on your partners face they could very well be fed up with you. When I attended couples counselling in Los Angeles (to learn about body language, not because of an issue, I should say) this was one of the most important body language signs mentioned, so it is particularly important.

Refusing to look at you: An obvious one, but if your partner seems reluctant to look at you, they may well be wishing you weren’t around.

So, there we have it, some of the most important signs, both good and bad, in the body language of love. Be sure to look out for these signs, all of which are proven in the psychology of love. Don’t go calling a divorce attorney just because you see one negative sign though. Remember, emotions go up and down; just because they show negative body language one moment doesn’t mean it won’t change the next, so don’t be too caught up on odd gestures here and there or you’ll just suffer a bad case of depression and paranoia. Only be concerned if they show mostly negative body language and for a long time .

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Social Communication Skills: The Irrelevancy of Words in Small Talk

Posted on July 1, 2012 by Paul Harrison

Afraid of small talk in social situations? So are a lot of people. In fact, many of the world’s brightest minds, including top executives of Fortune 500 companies, Pulitzer Prize winning authors and even actors (you can take my word for that one). Yes, many of the brighter minds in society are terrible and the chatty chatty. They may be amazing at the big talk, but gosh darn it they just don’t have a hope in heck when in comes to the small talk.

So, what can these poor, mentally unable genius’ do to become as good at the small talk as they are at big talk?

The first thing to know about small talk is that it’s not really about talk at all. It’s really about establishing comfort. Your first marker on the road to good social communication skills, then, is this. . .

**Communication and Social Skills are Not About words**

At least not at first.

Perhaps the reason why bright minds struggle over social scenes is that they are obsessed with information, that’s how they get smart to begin with. It’s little surprise, then, that they presume that talking to people is always about an exchange of information. They presume talking is just an extension of the learning process. In truth it is anything but.

When we engage in small talk we have one aim: to build rapport and establish comfort. We simply want to know that we can communicate with one another, that we can get along. So, how do we succeed in this aim?

Match Mood and Tone: Social skills often come down to meeting other people where they are, at blending in. Listen to the other person’s voice tones and match them. Don’t worry about the words, just match the tone.
Opening Lines are Irrelevant: An opening line isn’t intended to be intelligent, witty or in any way important. It’s supposed to be a means of muttering a sound so you can determine the other person’s mood and match it. If you’re the first person to speak, rather that trying to say something that communicates interesting information, say anything but make is sound interesting (use the voice tones of interest or passion or some other energised tone that sparks the conversation). Save the important info for later, when you need to inject new life in the conversation. The one exception to this is when your company immediately begins to lay on the interesting / juicy info as soon as you start talking to them, in which case you should do likewise.
Mirror Body Language: Just as you match a person’s mood and vocal tone, be sure to mirror their body language. This greatly helps to get the relationship off to a positive start.

So, don’t worry about your words when engaging in small talk; no one else will. Look instead to match nonverbal communication until all people in the conversation feel comfortable.

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How do You Get Someone To Like You Quickly?

Posted on June 15, 2012 by Paul Harrison

How do you get someone to like you? The answer lies in building rapport, which will create trust and make the person feel like they’ve known you for a long time in only a few hours

How do you get someone to like you by building rapport?

To get someone to like you quickly, you need to show them that you are agreeable and willing to cooperate with them. Consider society. Society is only able to progress healthily and positively when people cooperate. Cooperation is everything. Without it, we’d live in chaos.
Cooperation isn’t just important on a national or regional scale, though. It’s important for one-to-one relationships to. You, and the person you’re speaking to, want to meet someone new who you can get along with happily.
So, all you need do is show them that you are agreeable and willing to cooperate. Just one problem: you can’t rely on words alone because, let’s face it, words are cheap in this day and age and people will often say anything to get what they want.
No, you cannot rely on words. So if you cant rely on words how do you get someone to like you? Through body language.

How do you get someone to like you through body language?

People will make their first impression of you within seven seconds, and first impressions are everything. You need to make those seven seconds count, and the best way to do that is to take a moment before meeting the new person to get your head in the right place. To get you thinking confidently and comfortably, imagine that you are meeting someone who is close to you, who you have known for a long time and who you trust. This will put you in the right frame of mind.
Always take your time. If, for instance, they said their name but you didn’t hear them, ask them again. This will make them like you because it shows you care enough to get it right. The same with conversation. If you don’t hear what they say, ask them. Some people are afraid this will give the impression that you’re not listening, but actually it shows the opposite: that you are listening intently and want to make sure you hear them correctly.
Be respectful to everyone you meet. Never make the mistake of talking down to someone.
Use mirroring (copy the other person’s gestures) but do so sparingly. If you happens to notice that the person you want to like you uses a particular body language gesture, mimic it but subtly. Show them that your body is communicating in the same way to theirs, but do so subtly so they are never aware of what you’re doing.
In order to help you to evaluate a person’s body language so you can use mirroring (as described above) ask them open-ended questions. This will produce a stretch of time in which they’re talking, giving you the opportunity to build rapport with your body language.
Use occasional single nods: Giving a single nod shows a person that you’re listening and will also put them in a more agreeable frame of mind.
Tell them something personal: Of course, you need to be cautious here because you don’t want to give any secrets away to the wrong person, but by revealing little personal insights about yourself you give a strong signal of rapport and greatly help the other person to feel close to you.
Touch them occasionally: Touch is a very valuable communications weapon (especially in flirting). At positive moments (such as when you give them a compliment or you laugh at one of their jokes) touch them softly and in a friendly manner. This heightens the sense of connection.
For Dating: The first time you touch them should be a handshake. The second time, say something about their watch or bracelet and touch it. Third time touch the shoulder or arm. Fourth time repeat the arm touch. Fifth time take their arm or forearm and say something privately to them ( “Oh, I have to tell you this. . . .”)
Have chats with them in several different areas: Talking to people in different areas makes it seem like you’ve known them longer. Try to break your meeting into different sections, each happening in different areas so they feel like they’ve known you longer.

Let me know how much brighter your first meetings with people look using these secrets. Like this article if you think you’ll use the advice, or share it if you already have!

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How to Communicate Effectively: Do People Hear You Or Words?

Posted on June 11, 2012 by Paul Harrison

Your first ten words can communicate your personality; so you need to know how to communicate effectively to make sure they hear the right you

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Good day, with this article I should like—

Nah, scratch that, let’s get this page rolling by—

Hi. So, I was thinking about something—

Read the above three lines and you will notice a distinct personality to each. The first is somewhat formal, almost presentation like. The second is aggressive and informal. The third is soft, almost submissive.

Each of those three lines is ten words long. Ten words. Yet in ten words, each line conveys a sense of personality. Read the lines again and you may notice how each one produces a different response in you. There’ll likely be one line you like, one you dislike and one you’re indifferent to. In ten words you have chosen to like or dislike something.

Good lord you are a judgmental sod, aren’t you?

Heh. But it’s okay, kinda, because everyone else out there is exactly the same as you.

To Learn how to Communicate Effectively, Recognise How Judgemental People Are

We all make judgments about people based off of the most minute details. In a lot of ways, this is a good thing. Imagine you’re a young girl out in town when a guy you don’t know walks up to you. He could be a nice guy, but he could also be an aggressive criminal. He says an innocent enough line; something like, “Hi there, why are you sitting here all alone by yourself?’

There’s nothing outright wrong with this line. It’s a fair question. He might be worried about you. Indeed, on the surface, the line is caring, yet there’s something about his words that you can’t put your finger on. Something sinister. You don’t know why, but you feel as though what the stranger just said is a warning. You stand up, smile so as not to anger him, and hurry back into a busy part of town.

You’ll never know for sure whether that guy was a nice guy or something far worse, but never mind, because you’re safe back in the busier part of town.

*The line the guy used in the example above would likely be interpreted as aggressive and would give over the impression of someone looking to take advantage because a) he’s invading the girl’s privacy by demanding to know why she is alone, and he also repeats the fact that she is alone (“Sitting all alone / by yourself”). This suggests that he is particularly focussed on the fact that she is alone, which says a lot in itself. To know how to communicate effectively, be mindful of what little details like this communicate about yourself and other people.

What’s important about this story is that it reveals two very important truths to recognise when learning how to communicate effectively:

We can come to trust / distrust, like / dislike and form other opinions of people in just a few words.
Because of this, we can choose to use words that will present us in specific ways. If the guy in the above scenario had simply said “Oh, hey, you okay?” he likely would have at least got a response because he’s not being aggressive and is not mentioning the fact that the girl is alone. This is just one example of how our words convey our personality and make people respond to us in different ways. People are so sensitive to words,and words themselves are so flexible, that we can create virtually any impression we want through them.

Words cost nothing, yet by choosing our words selectively we can very heavily influence how people think and feel about us. Knowing the right words to use is like winning the social lottery without having a ticket. Words are an important part of learning how to communicate effectively. If you want to know how to communicate effectively, you have to pay attention to the tiny details, like those we have looked at in this article on how to communicate effectively.

For now, though, let me leave you with one question about how to communicate effectively

The question is this: how much of people’s perception of you is based on verbal communication? How much could you change that perception by using different words?

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For now, though, let me leave you with one question about how to communicate effectively

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