If you want great social communication skills then you need to face this unfortunate reality of people: they discriminate. Society and law may dictate against discrimination (and, of course, with good reason), but that doesn’t change the fact that people are inherently discriminatory. Like the birds of a feather flocking together, the rich people go with the rich people, the jocks go with the jocks, the fashionistas with the fashionistas, the well of with the well off, the less well off with the less well off. If we are to avoid the word discrimination, then we must at least admit to a certain cliquishness, because this cliquishness greatly effects our social communication skills.
The first rule of social communication skills is to recognise that we like being with people who are like us. People will naturally view those who are similar to them as being more likeable, more agreeable, more honest, often even more attractive. That’s an important fact for businesspeople, social people and, well, people to digest. If you want to fit in, in any way, with a group of people you are dissimilar to. . . well, you’d better practice your acting skills.
For social communication skills, sales communications skills and all other interpersonal relationships, you need to show people that you’re like them. In sales, know that a product’s image must represent its demographic. For dating, know that you must in some way match with the person you’re attracted to (you don’t have to be good looking to date a good looking person, intelligent for an intelligent person etc., but you do need to find some matching part), for friends, you’re going to need some similar hobbies, sense of humour etc. So, how do we do that?
Social Communication Skills Trick 1: Echo. . . Echo . . . : People have their own way of speaking. Some use curse words, others avoid them like the plague. Some speak quickly, other slowly, Some use big fancy intelligent words, some are dedicated to the monosyllabic order. Whichever linguistic stylings a person prefers, replicate it. They’ll feel like you’re one with them, like you’re made from the same mould.
Word Matching Game: People have set words they use all the time. To some, a job is a job and always will be, where to others it’s a profession. Is it an examination, an exam or a test? A movies, a film or a flick? When understanding someone, is it “seeing their point” “hearing what they’re saying” or “catching the drift”? Match, match, match.
Technical Terms: Hobbies, jobs and interests have their own technical terms which are considered right. An actor doesn’t say, “Have a good show,” they say “Break a leg.” Writers always ask, “Fiction or non-fiction?” Lawyers have firms. Advertisers have “agencies.” The important thing to note is that specific interests, hobbies and lines of work have a right was of wording / phrasing things. If you want to fit in, use the right terminology.
These tricks will give you excellent social communication skills. Be sure to use them today, and remember to share these tricks with others so they can have good social communication skills too!